Frequently asked questions.

What is Sober, Still Becoming about?

This is a space for honest reflections on sobriety, emotional growth, spirituality, faith, and everything in between. It’s not a “how-to” — it’s more of a “me too.” I write about the weird, wonderful, raw moments of recovery, because not every sober day looks like a sunrise hike and a green juice.

Can I get sober without going to rehab or AA?

Everyone’s path looks different. Some people thrive in structured programs or meetings. Others build their recovery with therapy, faith, spirituality, or strong personal routines. If you’re trying — you’re doing it. No one gets to tell you what your recovery has to look like.

What helps when I feel like giving up?

It’s been about three years since I’ve felt the urge to drink, but I remember that weight — the heaviness in my chest, the unraveling, the quiet desperation of wanting to escape. When that feeling arises, what helps?

I stop. I pause. I breathe. I reach out to someone. I step outside and feel the universe around me. I watch something comforting. I speak up or I take time for myself. I remind myself that I don’t have to live in the darkness of my past anymore.

I still remember the last day I drank — the emptiness, the longing to break free from that cycle. And by my Higher Power’s grace, I don’t have to return there.

What does “still becoming” mean to you?

To me, “still becoming” means that sobriety isn’t a straight line — and it never will be. Life is more manageable today, but I don’t have it all figured out. Recovery is ongoing.

It’s about uncovering who I truly am, day by day, and allowing the universe and my faith to shape me through growth, change, missteps, and grace. I am not finished — and I don’t need to be. I am still becoming.